Five Signs She Doesn't Like You (And Will Break Your Heart)
Reading a womans body language is the quickest way to find out if she's interested in you. This is a quick article that gives you the information you need quickly before heading out to the bar with the lads.
Did you know that 55% of the impression we get from someone is communicated through their body language? 38% is from the tone, speed and inflection of their voice, and a tiny 7% is from what they're actually saying! (This doesn't mean you can talk about your love of tuna fish all night!)
The topic of body language is a vast subject which would need at least its own article to even scratch the surface so, for purposes of brevity, we'll keep things simple for now. Also see the companion article: Five Signs She Likes You (But Is Playing Hard To Get).
Reading Her Body Language
Body language consists of two basic types of gestures. Open gestures and closed gestures. In their most basic form, open gestures are displayed when women are either interesting in, and attracted to the person presented to her. Closed gestures are displayed when she is not.
Being able to read these signs and use them to your advantage will not only make you more successful with women, it will also allow you to cut your losses and not waste your time on women who simply aren?t interested. Today we?ll be looking at the closed gestures you will see during your dating life. These are body language signs which mean she doesn't really like you and will break your heart if you get too attached. I find it best in situations where I see at least two closed gestures being displayed to simply cut my losses and walk away. Remember, there are plenty of fish in the sea!
The Five Closed Body Language Gestures
Gesture 1 - The Roll
If you've struck up conversation, and you are trying your best lines to impress her, look at her eyes. If she rolls her eyes at the things you say, she is showing embarrassment at your presence and is displaying to everyone else that she's just not interested. Walk away. You don't have much of a chance with this girl.
Gesture 2 - The X Zone
If she has her arms crossed, she's not open to you and what you have to offer her. It's a tell-tale sign that she is either nervous, uncomfortable, agitated or she simply doesn't like you. Try changing your strategy and see if her body language becomes more relaxed and open.
Gesture 3 - The Poker Hand
This is when she plays her cards close to her chest (just like a poker player) and doesn't show you her wrists, palms or the inside of her arms. She's very guarded and doesn't feel comfortable with you. Change tactic and see if she warms to you, if not then fold your hand (pun intended!).
Gesture 4 - (Reverse) Leaning Tower of Love
If she's leaning away from you or her posture is stiff, it's a sure-fire sign that she wants out of the situation and you're wasting your time. The night is young and there are many women who'd be more receptive to your advances.
Gesture 5 - The Statue
This is kind of a no-brainer, however you wouldn't believe the number of guys that do not pick up on this gesture! If she's sitting with her head resting in her hand with downcast eyes she is bored and not interested in anything you have to say. Politely make your excuses and walk away with your head held high.
Obviously, when you're out in the dating battlefield these gestures are only guidelines and you should follow your gut instinct wherever possible. If you notice her using one of these gestures, don't panic and run for the door! If her arms and crossed and her back is stiff she might just be cold, or her friends are all hooking up with guys and she feels left out. If you want to talk to her, then go ahead. Be friendly and smile.
I'd suggest using the rule of four here. If she displays four of the five gestures I've mentioned then don't bother. Any less then it's down to your social skills and charm to turn it around and get her interested in you.
The next time you notice a good looking girl from across the room, make eye contact with her. When she notices you, give her a smile (and maybe a wink!) and get over there to talk to her. The introduction is key when you're actually engaging with her.
"I can't believe the way you were checking me out over there like I'm a piece of meat! What's that all about? I'm Christian, by the way. What's your name??
Want more information on picking up women? Just A Guy Thing highly recommends 'Art of Approaching'
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