Just A Guy Thing

This is a guest post from Stefan Knapen, the author of StudySuccessful, a blog about living a successful college life. Stefan is a medical student in Groningen, the Netherlands.

Have you seen the movie Top Gun? Great. Have you seen How I Met Your Mother? Awesome.

In Top Gun, a wingman is the person who protects the one who attacks the opponent. So, Maverick is attacking an enemy and Goose is backing him up, Goose is there to help him whenever he can do something.

In How I Met Your Mother, not so much. A wingman is the guy who helps his friend get in contact with girls. He is helping the attacking male to conquer the female. And that is a flattering job.

Becoming a wingman
You can become someone’s wingman in two ways. You either be asked by him, or you say you are his wingman from now on. So he is asking you, or you claim to be his.

When your friend is asking you to become his wingman, be flattered. Say thank you first and accept the job. When you see that your friend is in need of a wingman, say that you want to step into the role – he will be grateful. He might not like it at first – things like ‘I don’t need that’ aren’t uncommon in the process of getting a wingman. But when you know your friend needs a wingman, do what you have to do.

Before going to bars
Make plans – talk things over with your friend before headig out. Make up stories and have fun, like he has been volunteering for a year in Africa, that he is one of the youngest CEO’s of a certain company, anything will work. But don’t be lax, think your plans through thoroughly.

You and your friend need to be on the same page – you can’t tell a girl that your friend has been to New Zealand when your friend is telling her that he went to Vietnam. Plan doomsday scenarios as well. What if your friend needs to escape from a girl? What if a girl looks through your plan and sees that you are pulling a joke on her? Be ready.

At the bar and on the street
This is where the action happens. Here is your territory, this is where you need to come into action. Go talk to a girl, talk nicely about your friend, point at him, so she knows who he is. She doesn’t need to talk to him or anything yet, but it’s nice when a couple of girls know the value of that guy.

Somehow, when a couple of girls like the guy, more will like him. Show his value, show why he is good. This can be easily done – you only need to chat for a couple of minutes, probably when he is off getting some drinks.

For example, your friend is going for drinks. You say to the girl next to you: ‘Would you believe me if I say that my friend, who just got away to get some drinks, is the brand new CEO of [insert any local company]?’ ‘No’ ‘Well, he is, and we are here to celebrate that fact! But please don’t tell him I told you, he doesn’t want many people knowing that and he doesn’t want to bribe, the guy is shy. There he is, I’m going back to him.’

Works great – you let her know that she needs to come to him and she knows his value and will start to admire him! When your friend sees a cute girl, you can do this too, when he walks away. He can later start to contact her, and it will probably work out.

Concluding thoughts
Being a guy’s wingman is a noble job – it is something men do for each other. We aren’t barbarians who have to fight for girls anymore, so let’s help each other instead.

It’s not only a noble job, but also a tough job. Realize that your friend may get down when a move doesn’t work and you’ll need to pull him through that point. When he is refusing your help, do it anyway. When he doesn’t want to contact a girl, just do the ‘have you met’ trick. He made you his wingman for a reason.

Good luck, fellow men, make yourself proud of what you’ve accomplished for your friends!

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