His engineer and a very good looking ,funny and has a strong and great personality.

He always gets a bad rejections from hot chicks.

Last week i was with him and he did talk with a chick and she trated him like a jerk. Yesterday walking around with him we saw the very same girl going out with a broken dirty jerk and she was kissing his hand WOW ? HOW COME ?

Here is my take on this:

HOT CHICKS goes after JERKS because thay have many things in common:

Both CHICKS and JERKS don”t like mathematics (AHHHH!! LOGIC)

Both CHICKS and JERKS want the easy way around (They hate to study or work hard)

Both JERKS and CHICKS think the same way and therefore tend to meet in the same places and feels much better being togheter.

the argument hear from blonds to stop me from thinking logically abut this is ”

“DID NOT CLICK” Okey ? ok so we hit the wall nothing you can do ?but wait

Will it click if i bring you a millionaire ? i bet it will 100% “click” so its not about click but is that most hot chick are attrackted to jerks because they have the same pattern of thinking .

Remeber that as a nice guy you can always be a jerk if you want ,but for a jerk its a very hard to be a gentelman

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I liked it because of all the information in it.

I didn’t like it because it described my life perfectly. And that means I have a he’ll of a lot to change.

Umm, Maggie this is confusing to me, and may illustrate why some guys do it wrong (as I used to). The first and second ‘friend’ references seem to contradict one another. Some of what follows is just for you, but some is a general post…

My upbringing strongly impressed on me that it’s best to avoid talking about sex with girls; they won’t like it because they don’t particularly like sex. (And let me tell you, that’s a cruel and crippling message to give a sensitive and impressionable young boy; it profoundly affects future relationships.)

That sex taboo confused me for years, since all I had left to expect with girls (or talking to them) was the romantic or friendship angle — which often left the *girl* confused and feeling misled if that wasn’t what I really wanted. (My shyness didn’t help, either.) I was great at being a friend, and “such a nice guy!” but got nowhere sexually and had only a few lasting girlfriends.

I understand now that a girl wants honesty and, contrary to my upbringing, that it’s *ok* to talk about (and to want) sex… that often that’s all *she* wants, as I later learned through several broken hearts. As long as I’m respectful of her comfort (which I always am, no matter the subject), honesty should trump everything.

I have an *idea* what you mean, Maggie — that if the guy wants more than friendship it’s best to be upfront about that *in addition to* being friendly — and I agree. But the way you worded it, I’m not sure.

These days, though I’m always friendly and respectful, I don’t try to *be* a friend, confidant and all-around Boy Scout if I’m just sexually attracted to a girl. I avoid pain on both sides if I’m taking better care of my own feelings, and especially not trying to hide the sexual ones. I’m still a great listener if she wants to talk, but I don’t suppress my own wants and needs anymore, and have even found that playful sex-talk is no longer so scary and sometimes has an obviously positive effect on her.

Incidentally, this clarity of intentions works both ways. In my experience, females (whether they want friendship, sex, or a romantic relationship) limit the expression of that desire to vague stop and go *signals*, leaving the guy to figure out all the right approaches. I no longer engage those who play that game. And I greatly appreciate and admire the girls who are willing to shoulder some of that burden and emotional risk by approaching *him*.

Few people want to hurt another or themselves, and clarity can be brutal if done insensitively or taken badly. So it can be a tough balance for everyone. For both genders, the ‘dance’ is exciting not just because it’s fun but because it’s a little scary, too. But I now know that ’scary’ doesn’t mean ’something to be avoided’. Quite the opposite.

Good luck!

But not all the guys are the same, a lot just probally come off as jerks when they are not, due to being outspoken. That’s why people think I am a b eye tea sea ache.

The interesting thing is that most of the stuff on the site that guys should do (including watch the 101 movie list) I already do as a chick. Maybe that has something to do with me being a tomboy.

This article is interesting but not entirely accurate. From a chick’s point of view, I can tell you that some girls are shallow. They know what they are getting themselves into when they start a relationship (bad or not).

That’s why I do not have any sympathy for them. The slut like girls aren’t necessarily bad. One of my good friends Clair keeps a sex journal. I don’t think that woman has ever been in a relationship longer than a week. For her, it’s all about the thrill.

If you are a guy that wants to settle down or have a stable relationship, make sure that you are in that kind of relationship from the start. This can be achieved by asking a woman , girl, even an old lady (if you are in to such things) what they want out of the relationship.

People are funny. If you want a chick that likes action flicks, drinking beer, and hanging out with the guys, there are plenty of them out there. Trust me. Most of these chicks are my friends.

If you want a one night stand, interview a girl for that. There are plenty of girls (like my friend Clair) who would be more than willing to participate. The point is to be clear about what you want out of the relationship and go for it.

That’s just from a chick’s point of view. ^_-