As a female, and a shy nervous one, I don’t have to think twice about demonstrating affection or admiration whatever someone’s gender – even if I were gay nobody would probably be any the wiser (not that I’d care anyway!). So the likelihood of getting beaten up or even particularly pilloried just because somebody thought I might be gay is highly remote. If I were male I’d be pretty damn jealous of the female sex.

So any blokes who are brave enough to run this gamut and openly show their affection and admiration of other blokes have ALL my sympathy and admiration – and I can’t blame them if they feel they can’t risk doing this. I don’t think, in their place, I could.

That’s because all heterosexual men have had and have experienced “bromance” at certain points in their lives. It’s part and parcel of being a man.

Regarding men, I really believe that there is a natural tendency (and need) for every guy to establish a deep connection with another guy (or guys).

I had a few healthy “bromances” as a young guy. My closest friends were real buddies. We spent most of our waking hours together (movies, sports & time at the gym, drinking). We weren’t afraid to show affection (arms around each other, guy-hug, sometimes roughhousing and wrestling). And we actually talked openly with each other. I think these close brotherly bonds with each other has made all of us the caring and loving husbands and fathers that we are today. I really cherish those friendships.

Unfortunately, as we get older we tend to shy away from such relationships for fear of being percieved as gay and as a result we are starving our souls.

To me, a bromance is a healthy friendship. Men and boys should seek these friendships. The rewards are priceless.

It is very true,that the alfa males are more apt to bromances.
This can be seen in the army or among the military people at all.
I have seen too,that most athletes are into such relationship.

It is the same case with the freemasonry brotherhood(where women are
not accepted-traditionary).Such deep connections between people(men)
in one group could be a source of power(and the freemasons are
really very powerful group of people).

The deep friendship between the famous german poet and writer J.W.von
Goethe and Schiller became a source of great inspiration and both
have left many great artworks.

So,this is the basis one man to seek deep relationship with another
man-to increase his own personal power.So do many feminized women.
The man crush has very deep,complicated spiritual nature.Metaphysical
too.And it is again and again connected with the strive to increase
the personal power-something,that is typical for the man.That’s why
it is not well accepted by the society.The strong people are not
accepted and beloved.Look what is the attitude towards the freemasons
for example.Or the occultists(those who are succesful).The others,
who appear to have lesser power(no matter what nature it has-social,
finnancial,occult,spiritual…)will cry that this is homosexual,
twisted and immoral..while they will complain over and over again
that they feel not sure,not safe.

George who?

Why would anyone choose some random babe when they had a chance to hang with some of the most respected actors of our time?

The issue I’ve got isn’t really even with that question, but with the way “bromance” is defined. It’s ridiculous to add that sort of connotation to men spending time with each other for the sake of just being men.

Now, if you chose spending a night with your friends talking about how you’re not certain of your sexuality, rather than spending that same evening with your girl/looking for girls/not doing anything at all, I’d be inclined to agree with the term “Bromance.”

To be honest…I think the manlier guys and hotter guys are the guys in “bromances.” I have dated guys who will drop their friends for me at a moments notice and complain behind my back like “sorry, if i don’t she’ll get mad” and its actually pretty emasculating and a turn-off when a guy is so desperate for poon or a girlfriend to validate him that he lets you basically whip him around and tell him what to do.

I’m more attracted to guys who are challenges. They aren’t as desperate. Wimpy. And platonic male bonding is kind of a turn on. Walking into a room full of testosterone….:-D It can be intoxicating.

Most atheletes that I’ve dated have been in bromances. They are the alpha male types. So masculine that they don’t care if someone sees them as “gay” because they do a sport, they’re buff and good with the ladies.

I’m getting off topic. But men who are so insecure and nutless that the very mention of a word like bromance makes them stop scratching their nuts and spitting in public are wimps. The same kind of guys who would put on panties and a stockings if their girlfriend threw a hissy fit and told them they had to.

I thought he had a convincing argument but as I read along I realize that the author of the original article was making a case for men having affection for men which he terms, “bromance”. Friendships could on the other hand cover a girl and a boy, vice versa; a man and woman or whatever other combinations relationship but bromance is just for the guys. I think the bigger issue that is being subtle address is, the extreme difficulty that men have in showing their affection for another man, even though deep down inside of them sits the unbridled love they have for their friends that are men.
I had a hard time telling another guy that I love him, it actually became harder to do the more I did it. When I realize it took courage to tell another guy that I love him, the heh hem, man inside of me was challenge not to be a whimp. If you want a most interesting study genuinely tell guys who you love that you do love them and take note of the responses. You would be amazed how many different responses you would get to such a simple declaration. Again, Of course these are people that you genuinely love that you are telling this to; you don’t want to cheapened love! Some of the responses I get is, “we love you too”. Which makes me think who is the “we”-sometimes its the wife-and then I would think I hardly know your wife. Other times there are just dead silence, some of my friends after they take a deep mancheck, so to speak says, “I love you too man”. In my head, I am asking why is it so hard to tell another guy you love him if you actually do? It is this question and the answer that has gotten me to research bromance and the very much lack of it in our society. I wonder if its because men are not allowed to express their love to each other why in some cases their love turns sexual? Just a question I don’t know.
WALC, TN

So it’s just refreshing when a guy is man enough to unabashedly admit that he loves his best friend (I’m not talking sexually, though I wouldn’t see anything wrong with that either). It’s a strong quality because it means he’s confident with his feelings, loyal, capable of emotional attachment, and immune from what others might say about him. Those are appealing attributes to me.

Also, since ours is a culture where women are constantly encouraged to have emotionally fulfilling relationships of all kinds (with their children, friends, lovers) it’s important to remember that deep relationships are important for men, too, not just women. Again, I don’t necessarily mean sexual love, because platonic love also enriches our lives.

I adore my best friend and she’s as important to me as my spouse would be if I had one. She enhances my life in so many ways. Male friends enhance each others’ lives too and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.