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Sometimes I’m amazed at the lengths men will go to in order to impress a woman. A woman who probably isn’t even that interested in them to begin with. The first rule to being a man’s man is never to compromise your masculine integrity. I’ve put together 8 simple rules to ensure that this never happens. This is the man’s man code. Live by it.
The 8 Dating Commandments
- Ask her out only once.
This rule is golden. Too many men get into the habit of asking a girl out over and over again despite her excuses. These men are blinded by the possibility of sex. In many cases it seems that god gave man a brain and penis, but not enough blood supply for them to both operate at the same time!
Women are fantastic at playing hard to get, especially in the beginning, so you can expect to encounter this at some point during your dating life. How you react to this will determine if you get the date or not.
Also, for future reference, if a woman is genuinely interested in you she will make herself available to you. If she says “I can’t make this weekend, but how about next Thursday?” you can be pretty sure she’s interested. If you get any other response, fold your hand and walk away. If you’re really cool about this, she might even change her mind and want a piece of you after all!
- Aim higher.
If you’ve ever seen Jude Law in Alfie, you’ll know this already. If you’ve got the confidence and the charm, no one is out of your league. Never lower your standards just to get a date. You may not succeed as often with the more attractive women, but when you do it’s so much hotter and more passionate to be with someone that really turns you on.
Helpful tip – Place your hands on a hot iron and a second can seem like an hour. Place your hands on a hot woman and an hour can seem like a second. If you aim for a hot babe, be sure you’ve got the lovers skills to keep her coming back for more.
- Don’t let her walk all over you.
I used to date a girl who thought it was amusing to try and punch me in the balls! (I’m not even kidding!) At the time I was a shy and reserved kind of guy and I took it for weeks before she finally met someone else and we broke up. A few years later, I met this girl again thinking she might have matured and we could have a good time. She tried to punch me again and I grabbed her wrist. I politely told her to finish her drink because the date was over. For two weeks she was calling and texting me to meet up again. I ignored all her calls and messages.
Don’t ever be a doormat. Women will get tired of you very quickly and move on. You’re a man, so start acting like one. If she treats you badly, don’t tolerate it. There are plenty of women out there that will appreciate you.
- Be spontaneous.
Women don’t like to be taken for granted. If your dating falls into predictable patterns, the first spontaneous act she makes will be to dump you!
You need to surprise her regularly and keep her on her toes. Play hard to get one minute and then come on strong the next. Break the odd date with her! I can’t begin to count the number of times I’ve told a girl I can’t make our date and then had her calling me and texting me to arrange another one.
A word of warning though – don’t overdo it or she’ll think you’re crazy. Moderation is the key to this technique. Master it and you’ll never be the boring ex boyfriend again!
- Don’t be overly emotional.
By all means show your sensitive side from time to time but for the love of God do not become clingy, needy, desperate or excessively jealous!
Nothing says psycho like a combination of these overly emotional attributes. If you break this rule, the best you can hope for is to be the crazy ex that forced her to change the locks. The worst case scenario is that you end up with a restraining order!
- Challenge her.
Women love the thrill of the chase just as much as men. Taking a break from her to hang out with the guys will assert your independence and make you just as much of a challenge to her as she is to you.
One of my favourite ways to challenge women is to show an interest in someone else. Keeping her on her toes and making her work for it is all part of the game.
- Go Dutch.
There’s nothing worse than dating a woman who won’t pay her own way! Feminist groups have campaigned for years to get women equal pay, so it’s about time they starting to splash the cash themselves.
Essentially, all you’re doing is paying for sex. In which case, you could probably find a much cheaper option elsewhere!
- Enjoy yourself!
The most important rule for dating is to enjoy yourself. When I’m out with a girl I don’t worry about how neat my hair is or whether my t-shirt brings out the colour in my eyes. What I’m doing is cracking jokes, flirting and just generally enjoying the time spent with her. Don’t be afraid of rejection and stop walking on egg shells. Be yourself and be confident.
Just have fun.
Another great resource for tips and advice on women as well as quite funny and interesting stories is the Men’s Guide to Women blog. The articles tend to be quite long, but well worth the read.
Next time in The Man’s Man series, we’ll look at the top tips for blowing her mind in the bedroom. You don’t want to miss it! Subscribe to the RSS feed so that you never miss a post.
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