10 Things Your Dad Never Told You About Sex

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10 Things Your Dad Never Told You About Sex

Posted on 06 March 2008 by Ian

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How did you learn about the finer points of sex? Maybe you watched that awkward sex education video that was filmed a good 20 years before your time and made sex out to be a clinical and methodical process. Some schools had in-class demonstrations of your 60-something teacher delicately peeling a condom down over a banana like some giant, yellow (and slightly curved) penis. The mere thought of that image alone is enough to remain celibate and move to a monastery in Tibet for the rest of your life! Other people found out about sex by getting stuck in to a good old fumble session in the drama studio during a free period. Whatever your story, it’s likely you had the talk from your old man at some point as well.

Talking about sex can be uncomfortable, particularly for a dad with his teenage son. A sex ed talk from your father usually consists of the following:

Wear a condom.
Treat the girl with respect.
Don’t rush her.
Save yourself for the right girl.

Of course, none of this prepares us for the harsh reality of a proper sexual encounter. Our fathers have failed us in our pursuit for sexual enlightenment. With this in mind, I present to you The 10 Things Your Dad Never Told You About Sex (But Really Should Have).

#10 - Sex Fetishes

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I really wish my father had told me what a fetish was before I started having sex. The first time a woman asked me if I was into “Formicophilia” I thought she was speaking Italian to me. It turns out she got a real sexual kick out of having bugs, insects and creepy crawlies all over her genitals and wanted to share this delightful experience with me. Apparently fetishes are a normal variation of human sexuality which range from vanilla to just plain weird. I don’t mind a bit of biting and spanking every now and again but I draw the line at inviting cockroaches to the party. Make sure you know a bit about fetishes before engaging in sex because nobody wants to find out their girlfriend has a scat fetish after the fact.

#9 - It’s not like a porno movie

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Imagine my surprise when, after years of watching Jenna Jameson bounce up and down on multiple guys and screaming with pleasure, I finally lost my virginity to a shy little red head with a freckled face, glasses and braces on her teeth. I thought sex would be all about screaming, dirty orgasms and filthy talk. Not only that, I thought that every seemingly innocent situation could be initiated into impromptu sex. If my friends mum offered me a cup of tea while we waited for him to get home from work, I thought she might jump my bones any second. Alas, it never happened. As for the red head, it was less like a speeding train and more like a brisk walk. Sex is nothing like it appears in porn. (unless you happen to be dating a porn star)

#8 - Pace yourself

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As a knock-on effect of the porn delusions I suffered from, I thought that going at it hammer-and-tongs for long periods of time was the norm. Those porn stars could last forever and so I was utterly disappointed when my encounter with the shy red head lasted a mere 2 minutes before I rolled over and fell asleep. If you’ve never heard the story of the tortoise and the hare, I’m sure it related to sex. Women want a stallion who can last the distance and although sometimes a quickie can be just as fun, nobody wants it to be over before it’s even begun.

#7 - Headaches are no excuse not to have sex

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At 21, my girlfriend of the time regularly used to tell me she wasn’t in the mood for a bit of nookie because she ‘had a headache’. New evidence has come to light though which says that the female orgasm releases endorphins (a natural painkiller). This means that sex is a headache cure. I’d go as far as to use this to try and have sex with your girlfriend for any number of ailments. Broken leg? Sex can ease your pain, baby. Your (hot)friend has a broken heart? I’ll give her an orgasm to make her feel better. Genital herpes? Er…you’re on your own there, darling.

#6 - Threesomes are not as common as you think

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A combination of porn and ‘true story’ articles in Maxim and FHM had me growing up thinking that a threesome was a natural part of everyday life and would happen regularly. After losing a couple of girlfriends through requests for their big-bosomed friend to join us for a session, I began to lose faith. Some people claim that “Ménage á trois” is actually French for “In your dreams”. While I’m sure many people have had threesomes (or more) with other women, the sad reality is that the threesomes we could have would most often involve not another woman, but another man.

#5 - Impotence is a grounds for divorce

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In over 20 states in America, impotence can be cited as the grounds for a marriage breakdown and subsequent divorce. I’m sure a few wealthy businessmen who didn’t see the need for a pre-nup are now kicking themselves for their shortsightedness. It’s not enough that men have the burden of pleasuring the woman they love and rising to the occasion every time. Now we have the added pressure that if we can’t get it up and give our wife a good seeing to, she can divorce us. If you weren’t suffering from penile dysfunction before, you may well do now! I think there should be another reason for divorce created to cite women who don’t have the necessary fellatio skills to keep a man at full mast. Believe me, I’ve met a few of them.

#4 - Most women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm

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What? My dad never told me that. All these years I’ve been performing the sexual equivalent of stuffing a turkey and I never knew it. A lot of guys don’t even think about her pleasure during sex because it’s so easy to get lost in the moment. Thinking about it from a female perspective though, it makes sense. In, out. In, out. In, out. Yeah, I can see how that might get a bit boring after a while. The key is to master the clit using your fingers, tongue and any other body part you think can do the job. One of the best positions to get her clit going is doggy style with a manual reacharound. Try it and become a stud today.

#3 - Your penis can explode

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I’ve watched an entire TV documentary on sex disasters and things that go wrong during sex and it has changed the way I look at sex forever. I remember one in particular involving a Romanian man and his sexy 18 year-old girlfriend. If you’ve ever had an erection so hard you felt like it could burst, imagine how this guy felt. His erection was so hard, firm and manly that the blood cavities in the penis actually burst. Can I get an overwhelming “Ouch!” from the guys reading this? And it’s not just your penis exploding you need to worry about. There’s something a lot more common that nobody told me about until it happened to me. The dreaded ‘banjo string’. If you don’t know what the banjo string is, it’s the piece of skin between the penis and the foreskin and is officially known as the frenulum. If you’ve been circumcised congratulations, you probably haven’t even got a banjo string. If you haven’t, there is a good chance that rough sex can ’snap’ this little bit of skin and it bloody hurts. And bleeds. A lot.

#2 - Only 1 in 400 men can give themselves oral sex

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While it’s not surprising that only 1 man out of every 400 has the size and/or flexibility to perform fellatio on themselves, what is really embarrassing is that most of, if not all of, the 400 men have tried to give themselves oral. I find it a slap in the face to evolution that men created the wheel, flew to the moon, invented electricity and learnt to fly, yet they still attempted to suck themselves off in the bathroom. If you’re laughing while you read this, then chances are you’ve tried this yourself. If you have a smug grin on your face while you read this, then maybe you should consider a career in porn.

#1 - Men have a G-spot too

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Men actually have a spot which, when stimulated, can induce pleasure in much the same way as the female G-spot. The irony of this is that to pleasure ourselves in this way we have to explore areas of our body that most straight men would prefer not to explore. For some reason, our prostate is the source of this pleasure and it happens to be buried deep in our dirtbox. If you want to explore the joy of rubbing this sacred spot, you need to insert one (or two if you’re feeling brave) fingers directly into your anus. I experienced this completely by accident one evening when an ex-girlfriend decided to surprise me with an impromptu anal probing. Needless to say, I have mixed feelings about the whole thing as a result. If you’re brave enough to try it, lube up. Trust me, it won’t be anywhere near as enjoyable going in dry.

I had to learn all of this (and much, much more) through my own investigation and experimentation because my father only ever gave me two pieces of advice before I became sexually active:

Shag as many women as you can while you’re still young.
Don’t get her pregnant or bring home any infections.

If you have any sex information or advice that you think people should know about, or you want to share the key points of your own sex talk with your dad, leave a message in the comments. Ladies, feel free to comment too on things guys do wrong in the sack or things they should do more often and if your mother gave you some brilliant sex advice then for the love of God, please share it with us too.

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80 Comments For This Post

Khannea Suntzu Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 4:22 pm
Men, the biggest sex organ of a woman is her BRAIN. Create a fantasy and the vast majority of women will worship the ground you walk on. Don’t be a DICK, be a DIRECTOR.
matt Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 4:23 pm
this article was way better than the “art of flirting” article. though it’s odd that the author doesn’t know how to flirt, but can spew off some good rules of sexual engagement!
diego Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 4:32 pm
> Shag as many women as you can while you’re still young

It’s more about quality than quantity here, 3 *good* ladies will show you a much better time than 20 dull ones. I suppose you do need to go through 20 to find the 3, hah.
Christian Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 4:33 pm
@matt - He probably pays for sex. ;-p
Homer Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 4:43 pm
I have heard from a few doctors….Including Dr. Drew from Loveline that the male g-spot is a myth. Being a male, I totattly agree. There is no such thing as “milking the prostate”. It’s just a bunch of Cosmo crap. I do appreciate the rest of the artical however. I agree, MUCH better than the “art of flirting”
Steve Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 4:45 pm
Great article and funny photos. http://www.barebitsblog.com Steve
Jollymon6672 Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 4:52 pm
Oral stimulation on a woman is a necessity. It puts them in the right frame of mind as well as the mood. I have only have been with one woman who got off more from internal stimulus than external and she required very deep penetration. The biggest problem in todays world relating to sex is the mind getting in the way of the pleasure. Generations have taught us that sex is bad and dirty, yet life would not exist without it. If education is the key, then tell both sides of the story. Sex Ed only touches on the medical and safety side of sex. As we grow and experiment, we learn by trial and error, which for a sexual encounter can be defeating. Pride and media have perverted the human mind. We associate what we see on TV and in movies as reality more than what the real world offers. If we look at nature and how other cultures perceive sex, we could all learn a lot and have a more fulfilling sexual life.

Be smart, be safe, and be open minded.
Kim Siever Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 5:12 pm
Porn for women

Keep that in mind.
Anonymice Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 5:13 pm
Be the MASTER of the clit!

My best/most orgasms were from a boyfriend who didn’t have much packing, but knew how to work it ALL.

It was a beautiful, beautiful thing.
goocy Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 5:13 pm
Informative article! I didn’t know this one with exploding blood cavities…
But “Ménage à trois” means actually “houshold with three”.

Congrats to the chose of pictures, this surely took some time!
chato Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 5:27 pm
the funniest thing in this article to me was the busted penis thing and the spooge it spewed all over the woman’s shirt. nice, that one…
Digital Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 5:27 pm
I’ve snapped the “Banjo String” myself. Let me tell you, that is probably the most absolute worst thing that can possibly happen to man during sex (unless of course it’s durting some sort of dirty fetish sex). That sucker bleeds, alot! Think about men, your penis is full of blood at the time, now it has a way out of your body.

And yes, it hurts. And yes, it was scary. And yes, going to the hospital and having to explain your visit to the triage, her helper, and the female nurse that you will inevitibly get is pretty embarrasing.
crckd Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 5:49 pm
i wonder if there isnt a position that stimulates the clit during the act. ist there a way to like, grind on it during sex? not uncomfortable for the woman would be ideal with this too.
michael Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 5:49 pm
this is a grait story, i got some laughs out of it, and when my girlfriend wakes up off my sholder, i’ll have her read this story.
her review will be hereif you wanna check it out
mike
Mot Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 5:58 pm
Its likely that the reason the male g-spot (prostate) is in the anus is because stimulating the anus itself is healthy. It creates increased blood flow, and helps keep it cleaner. All of this goes toward preventing problems with the prostate and colon (cancer’s etc.).

That said I am far from gay. Men barely interest me in the for of friends, let alone touching them! Nonetheless, I do like it when my partner stimulates those parts very much. Essentially I dont think being gay has much of anything to do with enjoying anal sex.
Riley Sharp Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 5:58 pm
Beware of causal sexual relationships, they seem a great idea at the time, but women who are into that typically aren’t that deep (or often intelligent or loyal) so even if your having absolutely great sex, enjoy it while you can cause she’s going to dump you for someone bigger at her first shot. I speak from experience.

Also, if a threesome is on your bucket list, invest in a bi girlfriend, they may be a little more loony, but hey, worth it.

I found that thighs are highly sensitive, so pay attention. My ex really liked brushing her sides in passing, but stay about 4 inches away from anything interesting in public.
Katy R Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 6:07 pm
As a woman, I feel I am betraying women somehow…but the best way to get laid for a guy is to play hard to get. Women want what they can’t have. If you act like (or even tell them)that yo are a sexual lothario and no-one can hold you down, I GUARENTEE the women would come flocking
Tim Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 6:11 pm
11) Condoms help you last longer, but can also keep you from getting off.

12) Speaking of condoms, get the right size. For a long time I was buying regulars, which I would break about 3 of them everytime I had sex. So one day I bought the large kind and the problem went away. For the record, I’m not much bigger than average and I never thought of myself as a ‘big’ guy, but larger condoms give more room for movement and don’t snap as easily under friction (b/c they’re not as stretched out). Nothing is scarier than having one burst right when you’re blowing your load, so if you find them breaking, don’t risk it: get bigger ones. Trojan Magnums have the same diameter base as regulars, but expand out as you go toward the tip, so even guys who aren’t huge can benefit from extra room (and sensation).

13) Make it about her, and she’ll do the same for you. The first few times I have sex with a new girl I always make it about getting her off, even if it means being too exhausted to finish myself.

14) Sex on her period can be extremely hot. Natural, warm lube plus the fact that it’s taboo can be a turn on.

15) Girls want to be dominated. Really, really want to be. Even the self-described feminist women I’ve been with want to be thrown down and slammed. No matter how much you like her, don’t like her so much you put her on a pedestal and can’t drill her like she needs. When I was first having sex I was so “respectful”, if you will (because she was actually willing to bang me) that I wouldn’t do anything that might upset her. Later on I stopped caring and just went for it, and I learned that a lot of girls are willing to do stuff I didn’t even knew happened outside of porn.
Kenneth Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 6:12 pm
Thumbs up for suggesting male readers reach out for their gspot
Beth Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 6:56 pm
Guys, for those of you who have a big dick, the size of your dick does not give you a free pass to be a lazy or incompetent lover. I had sex with a man who had a very thick 10″ dick and it was the worst experience of my life because he was incompetent and didn’t make sure I was properly lubricated before insertion. It was painful, decidedly unsexy, and left me injured/bleeding (due to friction without lubrication on my vaginal walls). He was even worse than the guy with the 3″ dick (yes, a 3″ dick at full erection) I had sex with at a later date — at least that guy cared to work on the foreplay a bit.

My most satisfying lover (who also happens to be my husband — duh!) is average size. I generally don’t orgasm when we are having penile/vaginal sex (as has been the case with all my lovers), BUT he knows how to make me cum with oral and believe me that is worth its weight in gold!

Men, if you haven’t experienced prostate love, give yourself the finger. I do it sometimes to my husband and he melts into a puddle every time. (Be aware that you may cause “milking”, which is an emission of ejaculate fluid without orgasm.) I usually use a glove to keep things a little cleaner. Or, you can take a less direct route to the prostate by finding it in the taint area. It’s not as intense a feeling as going through the anus, but it still feels darned good, according to the hubby. Usually I do the external prostate massage while giving him a blow — he LOVES it.
Beth Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 7:00 pm
I just read Homer’s comment above about there being no such thing as milking the prostate. I disagree — have done it to my husband.
Vin Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 7:02 pm
1 in 400 guys…..hmmmmmmm well I guess I’m #1 LOL!! I blow myself on a daily basis cause I can! Its amazing and theres nothing wrong with it. Self satisfaction is a part of life, and I love it…..and the ladies like to watch too.
Ronnie Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 7:02 pm
Positions that can stimulate the clit? Woman on top baby! As for things that guys tend to do wrong…Men tend to go faster the more excited they get. For me slow (but not too slow) and steady gets the job done.
Alisa Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 7:03 pm
keep your hands clean and nails trimmed.
mikey Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 7:05 pm
i snapped my “banjo string”

awkward conversation with doctor followed

tissue round knob for next two days

it hurt like fuck!
J Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 7:08 pm
15) - very true!
Brad Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 7:10 pm
I wish someone had told me that it was completely acceptable for a guy NOT to get off during sex. That would have relieved a whole lot of stress that I put on myself (thank you porn!) which only made the problem worse.
Jay Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 7:11 pm
isn’t foreplay one of the most important parts of sex also. I once remember going straight for her draws when i was younger, and she said “already?”
elliot Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 7:17 pm
To Tim -

Not ALL women like being drilled hard. Everybody’s different. And being a feminist has nothing to do with sex.
Timmy Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 7:32 pm
“I have heard from a few doctors….Including Dr. Drew from Loveline that the male g-spot is a myth. Being a male, I totattly agree. There is no such thing as “milking the prostate”. It’s just a bunch of Cosmo crap. I do appreciate the rest of the artical however. I agree, MUCH better than the “art of flirting””

Homer,

You are naive and obviously out of touch with your sexuality. You state that “you heard” that the g-spot is a myth. Have you ever tried anal play or tried to massage your prostate? Just because a Doctor tells you something does not mean that what they tell you is the end all. Doctors are not Gods. IMO they are similar to mechanics ( albeit with 100 more years in schooling ). They both diagnose and repair the problem. Sometimes they get it right, sometimes they don’t. Many doctors will hand out “advice” or knowledge but are skewed by their believes ( religious or otherwise ).

/rant
David Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 7:58 pm
Personally, a guy has to be secure in his masculinity to not be squirmish over invading the “dirtbox”. There is nothing gay about it, it’s just sexual.
Jammy Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 8:11 pm
My advice is open the condom a little bit before you even take your clothes off. Enough to maintain moisture on it, but easy to get out of the packet & roll on.
Obama Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 8:27 pm
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Michelle Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 8:46 pm
Number 3, the one about the “banjo string” has actually happened to my boyfriend twice. I really wish now that he could get circumcised, because he has never really gotten over the event. I can’t even give him decent head anymore without causing pain.
Hairybutt Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 8:58 pm
No, sex is really not like the porn movies you grow up watching! I remember the first time I had sex… oh the horror! I thought all women shaved their pussies and a$$es bald, after all… how hairy could they be? I neraly lost my erection when I saw the JUNGLE my poor girlfriend (we were both 15) had between her legs! It was a mess! And her butt! It looked like mine (not the buttcheeks, but in between)! Man, I really do not want to remember the horrible feeling I had that somehow my girlfriend was half-monkey or something. Parents should really tell their young how a REAL woman looks like. It’s better for the poor women and the unsuspecting young men.
the panda Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 10:28 pm
your father never told me I’d have an Asian fetish. That has to count for something
ConfusedInCalifornia Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 11:21 pm
I met have met a couple of women who didnt enjoy oral stimulation… why is this!?!? The others have been with say I am very good at it, and I enjoy doing it. I guess there are technically guys out there who claim to “not enjoy getting head” but I think they are rare, and perhaps have had some shitty blowjobs. I guess everyone’s different!

Oh and why do women make excuses about sex in general? “I have a headache” = ??? So wait, you are making an excuse NOT to have sex?? Seems like it should be the other way around, and I just have never understood this one. Social taboos perhaps? Shitty lover(s)? What would make you not want sex?

And lastly, the bro who is denying the male G-spot should uh, do his homework
subcorpus Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 11:49 pm
hehe … great article …
Jenn Says:
March 6th, 2008 at 11:50 pm
Good Hygiene! I don’t mind a dirty man…say just getting of work, running heavy equipment and smelling like grease and diesel….mmm. But if you stink, forget about coming near me. Also, is it so hard to do a little trimming down there? Doesn’t have to be porn bald….although that is AWESOME for licking everything n stuff. But if you are wondering why your wife/girlfriend won’t go down more often, that could be part of it. Stink and hair that gags her! Lol!

Also VARIETY. That is a big thing for me. I don’t care how small or big you are, you just better know how to work it….mentally and physically. You can be the biggest stud, but if you do the same moves over and over and over, I’m out of there. Small yet knowing how to tease, work it and change it up, I will stick around and give it all right back to you.

Sometimes I like it long and loving, sometimes I just want it quick and hard so I can roll over and go to sleep! Just remember every girl is different. What one likes, another might not. Get to know your girl. I’d say that’s the biggest turn on. Some one who knows me.
You-Who Says:
March 7th, 2008 at 12:08 am
Actually the biggest sex organ on a woman is her skin….
Robert Says:
March 7th, 2008 at 12:12 am
You’ve got to be kidding me. You straight men are sad and pathetic. Three ways are so common that they are humdrum among gay men. A lot of times the sex IS like porn star sex. We’re not ashamed of, and we know how, to have fun, safe, clean backdoor sex.
JayDee Says:
March 7th, 2008 at 12:30 am
Confused in California:

Hey there. A few of the women I’ve been with in the past have had phobias about their genitals. I suspect the cause of women’s apprehension about oral sex stems from one (or more) of the following:

1) An upbringing that taught a girl to be ashamed of her genitals. Parents who try to get their daughters to not exploring themselves as youngsters often resort to, “Don’t touch that, it’s dirty!”.

2) The prevalence of ‘feminine hygiene products’ out there tend to re-enforce #1.

3) Sadly, there are a lot of women out there who have experienced sexual abuse in their past, and there may be lingering trust and control issues that you need to help mitigate.

Enough bad news. Here’s the good news.

A lot of the time, things like this can be overcome with patience and understanding. Express your intentions clearly — “I really like pleasing you this way, and it’s something I want to do for you.”

For #1 and #2, try oral sex immediately after getting out of the shower. Soap each other up, and spend a lot of time on each others bits. (Liquid soap is a good idea - bar soap can be abrasive.)

For #3, you have to move slowly, and establish trust. A lot of female-positive porn features copious amounts of soft, sensual touching and cunnilingus.

Ironically enough, some women respond to assertiveness too. I had a GF who would only let me go down on her if she was tied up. … or drunk.

Be persistent about giving your girl pleasure. =)
Shopping Cart Software Says:
March 7th, 2008 at 12:55 am
Some of this stuff is quite interesting lol.
Random Guy Says:
March 7th, 2008 at 1:30 am
@Beth

“I just read Homer’s comment above about there being no such thing as milking the prostate. I disagree — have done it to my husband.”

I think he faked it.
Anonymous lady Says:
March 7th, 2008 at 1:31 am
I think guys should know that girls with big boobs, well the majority of them would like for the guy to play and suck on her boobs. This is just another way to get a girl aroused. Plus, I hate guys that are so lame that just want the girl to be on top all the times, and refuse to do something new. This kind of behavior from guys is the kinda behavior that triggers girls to lie about having a hedache. Come on guys, get interesting!!!!
rosevilleboy Says:
March 7th, 2008 at 1:42 am
Katy R said, “…the best way to get laid for a guy is to play hard to get. Women want what they can’t have.” I’ll go one better than that. You tell women that you’re gay and they’ll be all over you like flies on s**t. There are all too many females just pompous and stupid enough to think that they could be “the one” who can “turn him around” because he just needs “the right girl.” It also proves to be a helpful strategy in bagging two girls at the same time, each competing to be better than the other, trying their damnedest to “win” the guy by turning him straight. Trust me, this works!
megan Says:
March 7th, 2008 at 2:05 am
i just want to reinforce the dominance thing, most girls i know love being dominated by guys.

personally, i can only be attracted to a guy who’s powerful.
Banjo Says:
March 7th, 2008 at 2:13 am
The Banjo string… I’ve never hurt it while railing a girl, yet… But I have sliced it when I bailed out of my shower and clipped it on the edge of the bathroom sink countertop. Luckily I hadn’t been whackin er in the shower, and I didn’t really bleed alot, but it did take a while to heal, and stung like bee! (and smelled like ox) jokes
NotSure Says:
March 7th, 2008 at 2:17 am
If you want a threesome, there are some things you need to do.

First, stop advertising yourself as a nice guy. Be well known as a kinky pervert. You will find that most relationships do not start with a random meeting, you get introduced, and you want your reputation as the perv to precede you. Kinky women will be drawn to you knowing you are up for almost anything. Oh, if you have strong moral objections about any sexual act… you may find that your cover will be blown as soon as you give a revolted look when a woman admits she likes a specific sex act (no, not “sex position”… something so nasty Penthouse and Playboy would never print it in their letters pages).

Next, talk to your new woman… she may have jumped into your bed straight from church, she may be the sweetest, nicest, most innocent girl you have met… but she KNEW your reputation… she is either far from innocent, or has a deep urge to loose the innocence. Talk to her about her sexual fantasies (try not to blurt out your kinkiest perversions before she tells you hers), listen to what she tells you, and what she omits telling you… omissions from a list of things she will never do sexually, often tell you more than a list of things she wants to do.

Group sex often pops up in these discussions… OK, I have never had a conversation like this where group sex did not come into the discussion.

Be open to a MFM threesome. You do not need to be bisexual. There are many things two men can do with a woman that involve little to no male to male contact. A woman is going to be much more at ease if the conversation is more than only you boning some other woman. MFM threesomes are good for beginners, IF you can find a second guy who will respect you.

FMF threesomes are a lot of work… and not only physically when two women are horny enough to want you to service each of them twice… with full foreplay each time. The real work is the jealously. If you are not good with women, or you have a shaky relationship, do not even try… If you believe you can handle it, take a walk with your girlfriend this coming weekend. Hold her hand and make small talk. Now ogle and stare at the first gorgeous woman that walks by. make sure your girlfriend knows you are looking. Now talk your way out of it and calm your girlfriend down. Now you have the first inkling of what can and does happen if reality suddenly hits your girlfriend in bed, that you have your penis in another woman’s vagina. It does not matter that she agreed to it. When have you known women to be reasonable? She is more likely to go off at you if she interprets her share of attention as less than the attention you are giving the other woman. Finally, the other woman can go off at you for pretty much the same reasons. It is like walking a tightrope the first time your threesome first gets into bed. It gets easier as you go if it is a regular threesome.

Still want one? They are very possible, but you have been warned.
Shaun Says:
March 7th, 2008 at 3:55 am
I’m pretty sure the anal g-spot is there to bring a surge of relief after you take a crap.
ultra Says:
March 7th, 2008 at 4:59 am
More advice … keep a ‘friendly towel’ near the bed because nobody really likes sleeping in a wet spot.
J Says:
March 7th, 2008 at 1:16 pm
Circumsized and broke the banjo. Had that talk with my Dr and he says it happens all the time. Lots of blood yes. Had to sit down for a while and rather scary when it happens.
My GF wants to go treasure hunting to find that prostrate Gspot one day. I can’t wait to find out what it’s like! Tried it myself but to no avail.
Currently trying some multi-orgasm tests. Think I did it to myself last night. We’ll see! It’s hard to stop and wait when inside her tho
Oh yeah! And since I get her off several times using fingers/tongue she says I’m definitely a keeper
Fubiz Says:
March 7th, 2008 at 3:42 pm
Very good roundup!!!
Racy_Rick Says:
March 7th, 2008 at 8:12 pm
This is a great article. There are many other things with couples that can make sex more interesting time after time. Communication is a huge, no monumental item in having sexual relations. It is amazing how much just talking about things can turn you on.

Also toys are a great thing to introduce. someone earlier in the comments asked if there was a way to stimulate the clitoris whilst having sex. Although I know this is possible it can be easily achieved with a cockring. There are even ones with vibrators attached. Check them out : http://racy.com/toys-for-two_rings-for-couples.html

you can always introduce toys with a little rubber duckie
http://racy.com/vibes_bath-time-toys.html
Stone Cold Says:
March 8th, 2008 at 7:37 am
Great article and great comments.
Christian Says:
March 8th, 2008 at 8:22 am
Thanks for all the wonderful comments everyone. And to any guy that has snapped his banjo string - I feel your pain.

-Christian
Pacos Bill Says:
March 8th, 2008 at 4:06 pm
What about the “ejection seat”?
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=ejection+seat

or the “double latte”?
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=double+latte

No father has ever talked about these.
john Says:
March 8th, 2008 at 8:50 pm
My father never told me about blue balls…
THomas Says:
March 9th, 2008 at 11:03 am
very well written the clit thing is a must !
indy Says:
March 9th, 2008 at 11:26 am
also boys, look at kagles, they are a pubic exercise that will give you more control over your orgasms n ejaculations… your girl will be impressed if you do them regularaly. she can do them as well. look em up
susie Says:
March 9th, 2008 at 6:01 pm
About headaches: yes, it’s true that orgasms help headaches. But please remember how much of women’s sexuality can be in our heads - and it’s hard to feel sexy when your head wants to split open. I get migraines fairly regularly and my favorite cure is to take medicine, lay in a dark room for 15 minutes until it recedes and then fuck like crazy - gets rid of the lingering headache every time.
Ryan Says:
March 9th, 2008 at 6:28 pm
My mom was not the father’s first. He didn’t tell me that!
Nice article!

http://www.bestsnippets.com
Alianne Says:
March 9th, 2008 at 9:49 pm
Fun to read, good to know.

Just one thing: Sex may help to relive a regular headache. But forget about orgasms as natural pain relievers when it comes to migrane. Any one suffering from migrane will tell you that any kind of exercise (including sex) will split your brain.

It’s really not just an excuse.
Kelly Says:
March 10th, 2008 at 6:06 am
Very well-written, even being a female, I appreciated the info.

I think the whole clit thing is bull. I get off by penetration alone every 19 out of 20 times. During sex, the man needs to be dominate, very dominate. Its in the mind, not in the touch. Women are just too demanding.
Danni Says:
March 10th, 2008 at 4:26 pm
I don’t know if a girl has already said this or not but I will say it again.

If we say we want it rough…DO IT ROUGH. We’re not gonna break guys. If a girl has enough balls to come out to you and say, I want you to throw me up against the wall and *u*c* me hard then you should LISTEN to her and do it.

Also, it helps a bunch if you ask your partner what they like in bed. Compromising. Thats the key.

I don’t like stimulating the male g-spot, but I did it for him because he did the things that I liked doing in bed and I did the same for him.

All in all. Drill into her Tim!

Unless she says not to.
seXbox Says:
March 11th, 2008 at 9:06 am
@ crckd
as well as the woman being on top or ‘doggy style’ (+reach around), etc., you may stimulate her clit in the usual ‘missionary position’ by raising her hips (use a pillow or something under her butt) &/or by getting her to move a little lower down the bed and positioning yourself slightly higher over her than usual.

Just don’t forget the foreplay first!

—
sucking, licking, fondling, etc., breasts is not just for women with “big breasts” as one person said! Probably *all* sized women are going to enjoy this unless their breasts/nipples are feeling too sensitive for any reason (explaining would be unnecessary, and unwelcome to most men). just don’t pull or twist painfully - those things are attached! well, unless she likes it rough/that sort of thing. ;p

enjoyed this article even tho not a bloke.. i learnt one or two things. thnx.
poison-baby Says:
March 12th, 2008 at 12:25 am
guys … let me give you a very good example of the Domination Deal: my first love … our first date … i get in the car and tell him that i really want to take things slow and i want to feel relaxed and have a good time with him so would it be alright if we agreed not to do anything physical … not even the date ending kiss?

He said: “That’s fine sweetheart. I won’t kiss you … but before this date is over I am going to F#@* you.” Lost my virginity that night

Things I wish I’d been told: Don’t be afraid of hurting the penis on your first blowjob and for GOD’S sake don’t suck your lips in over your teeth to protect it. That bruising is really really hard to explain.

When your husband asks you what your most perverse fantasy is … chances are he wants to hear one of two things; what exotic place would you like to give him a blowjob and how much you would like to invite all your hottest friends over for a 5 girl on 1 man orgy/sexathon. What they are not prepared to hear is that fantasy where you’re kidnapped by a truck full of hillbillies and tormented and humiliated against your will for say a week or so. The look on his face will burn in my memory forever. And can you imagine my world after that? If we drove past a trailer-park … he’d ask if I wanted him to drop me off for a bit. Pick-up truck with say a rebel flag on it? Waggle his eyebrows at me and give me the ol’ “you know you want it”. DONT TELL YOUR MOST PERVERSE FANTASY!!! Women’s minds are dark and depraved.

Guys … don’t treat orgasm like some beast you’ve conquered and slain … conquer the girl … the orgasm will come *smiles dreamily*

poison-baby
Janey Says:
March 14th, 2008 at 3:29 pm
Advice for guys:

No matter how old you are this cannot be stressed enough; What are you trying to do tune a radio??? Nipple cripple yourself. See how you like it.
The Beautiful Kind Says:
March 14th, 2008 at 10:40 pm
OMG no kidding Brad - I wish we weren’t taught that sex revolves around a man’s orgasm and that is the goal and once he has one, it’s game over. It’s taken me years to untrain myself from that mindset and enjoy a good romp where I cum 3x and my guy cums zero. BUT we are both satisfied.

Brilliant article. Glad the one on fetishes was listed first.
fetisher Says:
March 16th, 2008 at 3:06 pm
Great article - I think an article expounding on the world of fetishes would also be beneficial to men (and women) everywhere.

For instance, one of the least talked about but most common fetishes is called Capnolagnia - a smoking fetish.

For many people, myself included, the sight of a beautiful woman smoking sends our minds reeling. I know, it’s hardly healthy, but the way I’ve always justified it in my own mind is that it’s a lot easier to handle than some of the others!

I can’t change it and I can’t make it go away - trust me, I’ve tried. I lived most of my life thinking I was a freak of nature, until the internet came around and helped me find other people with the same fetish as I.

So ladies, if your guy says he wants to see you smoke, don’t be offended. You don’t have to do it! Just don’t judge him!
Marb Says:
March 18th, 2008 at 11:15 am
Sho .. anyone want to shag me? I need more experience!
C-DUB Says:
March 18th, 2008 at 10:58 pm
Great article!
http://www.pualifestyle.com/forum
C-DUB Says:
March 19th, 2008 at 12:47 am
great!
sissa Says:
March 20th, 2008 at 7:35 am
I like my breast sucked…hard… I like it to feel as if he is trying to milk me. This is such a turn on.
Klause Says:
March 26th, 2008 at 3:26 am
Most women feel the need to be sexualy dominated, the trick is figuring out her caring gentleman sex vs cave man sex ratio.
Sometimes women will want to make love, sometimes they want to get fucked.
For example, it might be two times “gentle love making in the bedroom before going to sleep” to one time bending her over the kitchen table without warning and “bangin’the shit out her after coming in from work” it should’nt take long to discover your partner’s preference and this is very important…you must learn this ratio on your own, these desires are often subconscious so talking about it might just backfire on you!
Truthful Gal in Texas Says:
March 26th, 2008 at 5:25 am
As much as you want there to be, there is not a step-by-step instruction manual for pleasing a woman. A few facts:

The truth is: Not all women have a G-Spot. Seriously, it is a scientific fact.

A very important point that I want to share with all the guys:
I’m so glad you know where my clitoris is, you are so smart! Now the one thing you don’t want to do is take your long nailed fingers and start mashing them into it as hard as you can. Think of it this way: You love me to handle your penis, but if I took my hand and made it into a claw and started yanking your genitals to and fro with all my might, that wouldn’t feel very good either. Try a little tenderness, for Chrissake. The same goes for oral. Your tongue can hurt too, and regardless of what you think, more pressure does not equal a faster climax in most cases. You’ll just have to wait.

Talk to her, guys. Make it clear that you really want to please her and that you won’t take her comments as a personal attack on your technique, because if she wants you to do it just right, she will have to be willing to make A LOT of comments.

Lastly, don’t ask about her weirdest sexual fantasy unless you actually want to be surprised and possibly scarred for life. We grew up with the same access to smut that you did, twentysomething guys.
mable Says:
March 30th, 2008 at 8:49 am
Sex should be about her, that is if you care about the person your having sex with, first thing first lick the clit, make sure she is wet before you jab it in there, 99% of the time…jabbing it in is not enjoyable. Go Slow at first… if she likes it go fast. Stop with the macho stuff, let her be in control you will both enjoy it more that way. Make her feel loved even if that isn’t the case, that’s usually the reason she is sleeping with you… to feel loved. Hold her after you cum all-over/in-her most of us aren’t all about having your cum every where.And do not tell your friends about it.
Willz Says:
April 14th, 2008 at 12:55 am
i live in fear of the banjo string, honest to god how much does it hurt on a scale of 1-10 and would it be worth it to get rid of it?
Sex is fun Says:
April 15th, 2008 at 8:58 am
I think one thing missed was if a girl is going to give you a BJ help her! If she does it wrong and you just want to get off, she will continue to do it wrong. That is pretty much the rubric for any sexual encounter really. Feedback is insanely important, if you have multiple levels of pleasure(I’m sure we all do) try to keep track and respond the same way, ie facial expressions or what ever other things you may do. It helps the one pleasing you know what you like.
Pain and pleasure have very similar looks to them, try to have a look that can make it easier for them to see the difference. As time passes you and partner will be able to cover new ground much faster with these queues. That goes for her as well. Then the real fun begins, I believe its in the #10 category….
Nikki Bunny Says:
May 6th, 2008 at 7:18 am
Ok… I just want to say that the guys sucking themselves off made me laugh! I pictured my husband trying to do it to himself and I laughed so hard! I also want to say that women prefer a variety and sure a guy with a big dick could be a plus but… no woman wants to hurt during sex… personally, I prefer a guy with an average size penis. Big ones are way too much for me. As for the threesomes… I do not recommend it to people with jealousy streaks. My husband and I have had a few threesomes. All of which were fmf. I quite enjoyed it and I know my husband loved watching me with the other woman. If you want to try to get your woman to open up to a threesome, then bring it up while having sex. Don’t mention you wanting to fuck her friend, but mention watching her with another woman and see where it goes from there. On a personal level, I love watching my husband with another woman. It’s a fetish… I know… but it is just so amazing watching another woman get an orgasm from my man. I dk. But that’s all I have to say about that. AMAZING artical.